Saying You’re Sorry

saying youre sorryHow often do you say you’re sorry and mean it? For me, sometimes I have resorted to saying I’m sorry to fix the friction in my relationship. I hate conflict. So I confess, there are times that I have apologized to bring harmony back to my home.

The problem with an insincere apology for the sake of tearing down tension, stonewalling, or withdrawal is that it’s a temporary fix. An unrepentant heart will repeat the offense.

The solution is to sit before the Lord and ask Him to search your heart. When He reveals your sin realize that you have broken the heart of your heavenly Father who adores you. Your sin nailed Jesus to the cross regardless of that other person’s offense.

Our sin against God should produce in us a godly sorrow. We should grieve, mourn, and wail our sinful thoughts, selfish motives, doubt, fear, bitterness, and lack of compassion for others. These sins are offensive to God. We break God’s heart when we take our salvation for granted, justify sin, and cause people to stumble.

True confession is taking responsibility for your sin, saying I’m sorry to God and the person you’re in conflict with for the purpose to change. To change behavior requires recognition of a sin committed against God and a desire to never hurt Him again. With conviction comes a godly sorrow that leads to confession and renouncing that thought, motive, or behavior by casting it down by the power of Jesus name, not justifying it.

Instead of false pretenses and peace faking, let us truly repent of our pride to be reconciled with God and those in our sphere of influence. Let us be a people who humble ourselves before God and others to confess our sins to be healed once and for all. Otherwise, our worldly sorrow of saying we’re sorry to temporarily bring unity will lead to long-term death and destruction. With our lying lips we participate in evil. Let us not be hypocrites, but be humble and desperate for God’s righteousness displayed in a repentant heart.

Promise from God: For godly sorrow produces repentance leading to salvation, not to be regretted; but the sorrow of the world produces death (2 Corin. 7:10).

Pray with me:
Lord, thank you for Your forgiveness when we mourn over our offensive ways. We realize that our sin not only separates us from You, but we hurt Your heart when we turn to the ways of this world as a hypocrite. By taking our salvation for granted we become a bad testimony to those who are watching. Forgive us for not following Your Word, for turning to false idols, for our selfishness, stubbornness, and justification of our sin. Lord, we confess our worldly sorrow of saying sorry, but not truly mourning our sins committed against You. We understand that our unrepentant heart will lead to eternal death and destruction. We need Your power to change our thoughts, motives, and behavior. We grieve our double mindedness and confess our fear and doubt, our pride and self-centeredness, our greed and apathy. Change our hearts, O Lord, to be aware of our wicked ways that we may be a people who please You. Create in us a contrite spirit of godly sorrow to have a pure heart that will save us. Make Your power known as others witness our humble heart, our bold confidence in Christ, and compassion for others that will lead them to repentance. Break our heart for what beaks Yours in Jesus name we pray. All for Your glory and praise. Amen.

When have you said I’m sorry without meaning it?

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