How To Have Authentic Relationships

authentic relationshipsGod created us to be in relationship with Him and the people placed in our lives. We know this to be true, as He illustrated the importance of relationship through the trinity of the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. He created us to be in relationship with Him by making us in His image. He demonstrated His intense love for you and me and His desire for intimacy through His Son leaving heaven to come to earth to die for us. With our acceptance of His free gift of salvation, we are adopted into His family and given the Holy Spirit to be in intimate relationship with Him.

God created the marriage relationship as husband and wife. With the union between a man and a woman in marriage we form a family. Often come children to reflect the love of God through providing, protecting, and nurturing our children to be all that God created them to be.

Not only did God intend for us to have healthy family relationships, God formed a spiritual family. As sisters and brothers in Christ we connect with the spirit of God within those who are born again. God designed the church to function as one body using our spiritual gifts to bring the glory of heaven to earth.

Anyone who has been in a relationship knows that it’s not always easy to get along with people. Each of us come from different backgrounds with past pain, perspectives, and personalities. With diversity comes difficulty when we are coming from a place of brokenness. Yet when we are healed and whole, in a right relationship with God, then we can experience authentic relationships as God intended.

The question is how do we become in a right relationship with God in order to have authentic loving relationships?

Our promise from God

“But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus, his Son, purifies us from all sin. If we claim to be without sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness” (1 John 1:7).

Sin separates us from a holy God and the people placed in our homes and community. When we live with pride, pretenses, and fear of rejection then we cannot have authentic relationships. As we confess our sin to God and others we come out of the darkness of our shame to have true fellowship.

To confess our sins takes humility and courage. Pride destroys relationships when we judge and blame others, thinking that we’re better, instead of humbling ourselves to take responsibility and be truthful about our sin. The darkness of our past and present sin will keep us hiding in shame which will hinder authenticity.

Instead of hiding behind pretenses that everything is alright, we can become open and honest to experience true relationships that are meaningful and loving. We can embrace one another to find healing when we confess our sins to one another and pray for one another (James 5:16). That’s how God created us to be in relationship with Him and the people in our lives.

Is it scary to be vulnerable? Yes, but once you understand that all people have experienced pain and struggle with sin then it makes it easier to take a risk.

Be courageous. Pray to God and ask Him to help you be humble to say, “This is what I’m struggling with, I’m tired of pretending to be perfect. I need your prayers and encouragement.”

God designed the church to come together as a community to be authentic and have true fellowship with one another through the blood of Jesus that purifies us from all unrighteousness. Confess your pride of thinking you’re better and less sinful than others. Confess your sin of fear that keeps you hidden from experiencing authentic relationships. Embrace one another. Support those who are struggling in an area of sin, knowing that you have struggled in another area and it is only by the grace of God that you have not experienced or fallen into that same sin or situation.

Let’s come together as sisters and bothers in Christ to be the love of Jesus and effective ministers of the gospel message. We are one body here to support, encourage, and pray for one another to bring the glory of heaven here on earth. Be authentic by coming out of the darkness of your sin. Take a risk. And become a safe place for others to be real.

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