The Battle

Teens need their parents’ undivided attention and love. Teens often test the boundaries to see if their parents will do the battle to love them. From my experience in raising four teenagers, and going through my own struggles, I suggest the following:

  • The 5 Love Languages – Gary Chapman
    Click on image to learn your teen’s love language.

    Spend time with your teen even if they are difficult to be around

  • Love them according to their love language.
  • Make very clear rules
  • Establish fair consequences for when they break those rules and follow through.
  • Let your yes be yes and your no be no. If you feel uncomfortable with something they want to do, say no and stick to it.
  • Check-up on where they are and what they are doing
  • Do random drug testing if you suspect that he/she may be using
  • Be involved in their studies and sports
  • Make dinner and sit down as a family
  • Say something positive every day
    Compliment the way she looks, the way he did his chore, the color of her eyes with the shirt she is wearing. Find something positive to say
  • Don’t nag
    Clearly state what they are supposed to do and when he disobeys, give a reasonable consequence
  • Catch her doing something right
  • Pray for your child to know Jesus, to accept Him into his/her life, and to follow Him
  • Teach from the word of God
    The Bible is our moral compass to live by
  • Be empathetic
    Show compassion for what your teen is going through.
  • Be a good role model. Your children are watching you.
  • Focus on your responsibility as a parent to protect your children and raise them into responsible young adults.
    You will be happy when your child is well-balanced, feels loved, making good choices, and contributing to society.

Understand the pressures our teens face today. Your teens need you to do battle for them. Love them, pray for them, guide them, and spend time with them. There is resurrection power in Jesus. He will strengthen, guide, and empower you to love the unlovable. It’s your job. Discover his or her love language and start filling her love tank. Do the battle. Your child’s life depends on it.

God’s Word To Live By:

Ephesians 6:10-12
Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. Put on the full armor of God so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.

1 Corinthians 13:4-8
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.

Matthew 5:44
But I tell you: Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.

James 1:12
Blessed is the man who perseveres under trial, because when he has stood the test, he will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him.

Luke 6:27
But I tell you who hear me: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you.

Luke 6:33
And if you do good to those who are good to you, what credit is that to you? Even ‘sinners’ do that.

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