10 Steps to Loving You (2/2)

6) Attitude of Gratitude:
Stop the pity party. God has blessed you. Whatever struggle you may have you are still blessed. Make a list of all the things you appreciate in your life: people, job, food, clothing, roof over your head, the trees, the sunset, a warm cup of coffee.

Even in our most difficult relationships we can make a list of the things we like about that person. What has God done for you or brought you through. Be thankful.

Often times we need to get the focus off ourselves, off our problems, and onto helping others less fortunate. We must stop the pity party.

Your past struggles enable you to comfort and encourage others. God says in 2 Corinthians 1:3-5 that we have a God of comfort and compassion that gives us comfort in our struggles so that we can give others comfort in their struggles.

Look up out of the pit if you are having a pity party. Jesus is waiting to take your hand and deliver you out of your pit. Stop being self focused and start helping others. I once heard, if you are unhappy with your lot in life, build a service station. Have a grateful heart and you will begin to feel more loving.

The 5 Love Languages – Gary Chapman
Click on image to find out your love language.

7) Know Your Love Language:
God has created each of us in a special way to feel loved. The five love languages are physical touch, quality time, affirmation, gifts, and acts of service. Read, The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman to help you discover your love language, your husband’s love language, and your child’s love language. For a quick overview click here.

When you know how you feel most loved you can communicate that to the people in your life. Gary Chapman describes our love tank being on empty or full. If our love tank is on empty it’s hard to love those around us. Find out how people in your life feel loved so you can love others, which can restore your relationships.

8) Introvert or Extrovert:
God has wired you to get your energy from being alone or being with people. I’m an extrovert, so I get my energy from being around people. An introvert can be very social, but she’s energized by time alone. Both are equally good.

I know that being with people is a way for me to love myself which rejuvenates me to be a better mom to my children and wife to my husband. When my children were young I made a point of getting together with other moms at the park so my kids could play and I could be energized. Love yourself by spending time with others or time alone.

9) Spiritual Gifts:
You have been created special. When we invite Christ into our heart God gives us the gift of the Holy Spirit along with several spiritual gifts to glorify Him and to serve others. When we share our gifts He blesses us with a resurrection power, energy and joy.

If you told me eleven years ago, before I became a Christian, that I would be telling people about Jesus I would have called you crazy. God gave me the gift of evangelism, faith, and encouragement when I invited Jesus into my heart.

Discover your spiritual gifts right now by taking a questionnaire called The Spiritual Gifts Test. Some of these gifts include hospitality, helps, mercy, creativity, administration, faith, healing and teaching. By using your gifts you will love yourself and others.

10) Take Care of Your Temple:
When you invite Jesus into your life you are a temple of the Holy Spirit. We are told in the Bible to take care of our body, our temple of the living God.

Are you a morning person or a night person? One of the obvious ways we can love ourselves is to get enough sleep. Are you grumpy when sleep deprived? I sure am! How can we love others if we have no energy?

Take a bath at bedtime to get a good night sleep. Eat proper foods. Exercise by going on a walk. When you care for yourself you feel nurtured, which will allow you not to resent those around you, but to love them.

You are a vessel God wants to use for His glory. God has created you special and unique with a purpose.

God’s Word says to love the Lord with all your heart, mind, soul and strength and then to love others as yourself. We must love ourselves not selfishly, but to be rejuvenated to love others with the love of Jesus poured out through the Holy Spirit in us.

God’s Word To Live By:

1 C0rinthians 13:4-7
Love is patient and kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, and always perseveres. Love never fails.

Psalm 62:5
Find rest, O my soul, in God alone; my hope comes from him.

Proverbs 16:3
Commit to the LORD whatever you do, and your plans will succeed.

Hebrews 1:3
The Son is the radiance of God’s glory and the exact representation of his being, sustaining all things by his powerful word. After he had provided purification for sins, he sat down at the right hand of the Majesty in heaven.

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