Why Should I Forgive?

Satan wants to destroy our relationships, our marriages, our families and our churches. The enemy succeeds in his scheme of deception and destruction through people who hold onto anger, which takes root as bitterness. It’s bitterness and pride that keep us in bondage to the sin of unforgiveness.

Here are seven reasons to forgive ourselves and others who hurt us:

1. Forgive to avoid Satan’s stronghold.
In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold. Ephesians 4:25-27

Resolve the offense quickly otherwise Satan will do everything to blow the offense out of proportion. The offense will play over and over in your mind until bitterness takes root in your heart. The walls go up and the cold war begins, allowing the enemy to destroy that relationship, and ultimately destroy you with depression and oppression. Be aware of Satan’s schemes.

Paul writes, “I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake, in order that Satan might not outwit us. We are aware of his schemes.” 2Corin. 2:10-11

2. Forgive to prevent further sinning.
Anyone who claims to be in the light but hates his brother is still in the darkness. Whoever loves his brother lives in the light, and there is nothing (anger, bitterness, rage) in him to make him stumble. 1John 2:9-10

An unforgiving heart will cause you to sin.

3. Forgive to please the Holy Spirit.
Do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. Ephesians 4:30-32

Can you imagine the Holy Spirit mourning within you? We should want to please the Holy Spirit that lives within us when we believe Christ died in our place taking the penalty of our sin upon himself. When we invite Jesus into our heart we receive the gift of the Holy Spirit.

4. Forgive to be forgiven.
For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins. Matt 6:14-15.

Do you want to be forgiven? In light of what God has done on the cross to forgive you of your sins and all your imperfections consider that you show the same grace to your offender.

5. Forgive to obey God.
Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?” Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times. Matt 18:21-22

Jesus also said, “Whoever has my commands and obeys them, he is the one who loves me. He who loves me will be loved by my Father, and I too will love him and show myself to him.” John 14:21

6. Forgive to be set free of the bondage of bitterness.
I run in the path of your commands, for you have set my heart free. Psalm 119:32

We have peace when we follow Jesus and obey him. Our heart is free to love God with all our heart, mind, soul and strength and to love our neighbor as ourselves.

7. Forgive to receive God’s blessings.
Jesus replied, “Blessed are those who hear the word of God and obey it.” Luke 11:28

Do you want to be blessed? Who do you need to forgive?

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  1. Donna, I’m praising God for your act of obedience in reconciling your relationships. Sometimes it seems impossible to forgive ourselves, but when we fail to forgive ourselves we are implying we do not accept Christ’s sacrifice on the cross for our sins. He says we need to forgive in order to be forgiven…that includes ourselves. You are washed by His blood, purified of all your sin when you accept Jesus sacrifice, invite him into your life, and confess your sin. He is faithful. You are forgiven, so forgive yourself and be set free of the bondage of shame.

    Praying in the powerful name of Jesus that you will forgive yourself. You’ve paid the consequence of your sin long enough. Blessings.

  2. Donna

     /  May 28, 2010

    Kirsten! First want to say (after viewing your short video), “You go so strong for Christ! Bless you, bless you, bless you!”
    This past Weds. I had a list of praises to God’s faithfulness that far surpassed my requests.

    Regarding forgiveness- I sent my Aunt Marie a card. She has ovarian cancer. We haven’t communicated for over 25 yrs.. Part of expressing love to her meant I had to make sure it was honest. God played for me the nicest moments I ever had with her – few and far between as they were – they are truly the best of my memories. So that’s what I wrote in her card. Maybe 3 sentences at most. Now she knows I love her before she’s gone. In this, my dad, who really is the most direct recipient of her rejection, got healing, too. I’ve got more accounts to settle but I fear the hardest one is going to be with myself. But when I get through that, I’ll know that the hard, unyielding clay I am will have finally warmed in the Creator’s hand and is ready to be molded. Exciting and terrifying at the same time! Praise God for His goodness and how He loves us. 🙂


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